Adoption

The Saturday before Mother’s Day is a day that is set aside to honor birth mothers.



I want to take this occasion to say a few words about birth mothers, in their defense. They have been made out in the media as selfish, abusive, heartless women who just want to sell their babies for drug money. It doesn’t help that there are a few truly bad ones whose actions have solidified society’s view of birth mothers. However, there are bad apples in every group. Most people will attest to the fact that there are people among them who give their group or organization, and themselves by association, a bad name.



Yes, there are birth mothers who deserve this dim view. Those who have abused, abandoned, and neglected their children. There are just too many options available to women who don’t feel they can parent their child.



However, these types of birth mothers, in my humble opinion, are not the norm. In fact, most birth mothers place their children for adoption out of an abundance of love and concern for their child. They want their baby to have what they cannot give them. They dream of a better life, more opportunities, and a good education for their child. I’ve heard birth mother’s rejoice when they hear of the vacations their child got to go on, and private schools they are attending, and nice clothing they wear. That, my friend, is selflessness.



So, this Birth Mother’s Day, hats off to my heroes: the selfless and giving birth mothers, who gave their children life- not once, but twice- and then blessed a thankful family with the gift of a child. May you find the happiness, peace, and love that you deserve- my dear Birth Mom. Happy Birth Mother’s Day!