I was reluctant to begin a lifebook for my son because I thought it was too complicated. Not anymore. I love lifebooks!
In a recent article, I discuss the reasons that creating a lifebook for your adopted child, or foster child, is so helpful to them-and you.
When we adopted my daughter I bought a baby book for her. She was a newborn, so this worked out alright, though certain pages were a bit awkward. The pregnancy and labor pages for instance. However, I managed and faithfully jotted down all her firsts.
When we began the process of adopting our next child I wanted a special book for him, too. I knew about lifebooks, but I had no idea where to start. I am not a “craftsy” person and I imagined a lifebook being similar to a scrapbook. I loved my son and didn’t want to cheat him, so off I went to the scrapbook store.
I bought every gizmo and gadget that the lady at the store convinced me I “had to have”. Well, to make a long story short, I quickly burned out. For me there had to be a better way.
Now, with all three of my adopted children, I find that each lifebook is different. The younger children have “baby-ish” books that seem a little cluttered but has all their special mementos tucked inside: special memories, locks of hair, their first water color painting, and lots of photos.
My older son, age 12, is putting together his own lifebook. He has learned about his birth family, our family and himself. We have grown closer each time we work on it, even when the hard questions come up. In fact, I think we bond more during those tough moments. Kids trust honesty and openness.
Creating a lifebook with your child will make memories and create bonds. A lifebook is a life-changing experience. Why not start today?
